"Get dressed now!" - "Tidy your room!" - and the verbal sparring has already begun. Björn von Busch shows you how to avoid typical arguments: with words that really resonate with your child.
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Over 50 real-life family scenarios · Immediately applicable
The AHHa Effect in Three Steps
No instruction manual for perfect children. A simple method you can use immediately during the next argument.
Step 1
Eye
Observe without judging or attacking. Look first, then speak.
Step 2
Heart
Name feelings and needs – yours and your child's.
Step 3
Hand
Formulate a request instead of giving an order. And the tone already shifts.
What's inside
● Over 50 real-life family scenarios – from tidying up to brushing teeth
● For each case, a specific wording you can try out directly
● Easy to learn, no prior knowledge or theoretical baggage required
Almost every family knows these three moments. For each of them, the AHA! effect provides a concrete phrasing that you can try out right away.
"I yell too often – and regret it immediately."
Step 1 starts exactly there: observing without judging. Describing what one sees first takes the edge off the moment – before it escalates.
★★★★★
Alica S.
"Everything becomes a power struggle – getting dressed, tidying up, brushing teeth."
That's exactly what the more than 50 examples in the book are for: for each of these everyday situations, a ready-made request is provided instead of a command.
★★★★★
Frances B.
"My child shuts down as soon as I say something."
Step 2 reverses that: first, name feelings and needs. Children listen when they feel seen.
★★★★★
Angelika P.
Table of Contents · Pages 4–5
50 Cases – from morning moods to "Time for bed!"
The three steps are followed by the practical section: 16 chapters full of situations every family knows. You simply open the page that is currently relevant.
● Grumpy Morning Faces · p. 62 ● In the Bathroom · p. 70 ● At the Table · p. 84 ● Homework and Studying · p. 96 ● Keeping Agreements · p. 106 ● The Beloved Pocket Money · p. 118 ● Sibling Rivalry: Until Someone Cries! · p. 128 ● Clothes Make the Man · p. 136
● Slowpoke and Dawdler · p. 144 ● Forget me not … too late! · p. 150 ● Whining Zone Supermarket · p. 158 ● Bad Grades – Bad Mood · p. 166 ● Media Literacy Instead of Bans · p. 174 ● Chaos in the Children's Room · p. 182 ● Sleepover Guest · p. 192 ● "Time for Bed!" · p. 200
Complete table of contents, pages 4–5
For Parents by Parents
Just give it a try—you'll be amazed how quickly the atmosphere at home changes.
